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Hurting People Need You

Hurting People Need You

In the 30 seconds it will take to complete this sentence, an average of 12 people will have been raped, physically assaulted, or stalked by an intimate partner.  Let that sink in for a moment. When you wake up and brush your teeth (dentists recommend 2 minutes), that’s another 48 people.  While you take 15 minutes to eat your breakfast before work, that's another 360 people.  If you work a standard 8 hour day, then from the beginning to the end of your workday, that’s another 11,520 people. 

It's staggering when you consider the number of people who are harmed by an intimate partner. While we are living our normal lives, people are suffering. The amount of people in need of help is extremely large; we, at the Iowa Victim Service Call Center, can only do so much. 
 
This is why we need you.  Abuse by an intimate partner is a widespread, serious problem.  Not only is it happening in every community in the U.S., but it’s happening right now in your community.  It could be impacting your family, even if you don’t know it.  It’s impacting your coworkers, your neighbors, your friends, children in your schools, and so on.  The problem of domestic violence is closer than you can imagine. And it's far more vast. If we want to combat it, we're going to need everyone's help.
 
We need you to speak up.  For far too long, violence has been the norm. The idea of abuse being "a private family matter" has kept many victims silent over the years. As a society, we need to acknowledge that abuse is NEVER okay under any circumstances. We need to remove shame, believe survivors, and encourage them to speak their truth. And we also need to hold perpetrators responsible. Anytime you speak up against violence, you help create a better world for victims and survivors.
 
We need you to volunteer.  Our time as advocates must be spent helping callers.  To spend more time doing that, we need volunteers to help get our number out to people who desperately need it. After all, our services can only be utilized if people have our information. We need people who are willing to distribute posters, business cards, etc. in their local areas. If you're interested in volunteering, contact us.
 
We need you to share our posts.  You might not have a ton of time to volunteer, but it only takes seconds to share a social media post. We always post on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, reminding survivors that we are here to help. But we can't possibly reach the entire state without your help. As stated earlier, domestic violence is happening in your community, your sphere of influence. So by liking and sharing our posts, you can create an opportunity for a survivor to find hope.
 
The bottom line is this: hurting people, many of whom you know, need you.  They need us too, and we’re doing our part as best as we can.  We can and will do more, though, when you step in where you can.  Whether that’s through your voice, your social media presence, or your time, you can make a difference. You may not see the direct impact, but please know that we do and it’s more meaningful than you could ever imagine.
 
It means the world to a rape survivor who finds hope on the other end of the line after no one would believe her. Or the child who sends a text in the night as he lies awake trying to drown out the shouts of violence in the other room. Or the mom and her two children searching desperately for a place to go after fleeing an abuser.
 
These are just some of the stories we encounter on a normal basis. We are thankful for every survivor we can help, but it's still not enough. We know there are thousands of other survivors (plus 120 in the time it took you to read this blog) who need our services. We want our numbers to be available to all of them- which will only happen with your help. As you consider what you can do to join the fight, we'll be doing what we do best - helping those who are broken find new hope.